"Beloved (Christian), do not avenge yourselves, but rather give place to wrath; for it is written, "Vengeance is Mine, I will repay," says the Lord." Romans 12:21
Do you have a need to get back at others? If so, read this blog carefully. If you are a Christian who tries to make another person feel your wrath, for whatever reason, read even more carefully what I say about that.
The person who dabbles in revenge is setting themselves up for failure, not only in the attempt of it, but in their lives period! Revenge is a dangerous thing to tamper with. Revenge hurts the person who dishes it out. Revenge kills everything that was good about them.
I have lived long enough to witness the end of vengeful individuals. Sadly, they weren't prepared for what awaited them. It caught them off guard. You see, getting back at a person only puts a plan in place to destroy you. God's Word is true on this matter. I have seen people lose their blessing of success, and sphere of influence that they could have had. It didn't matter how hard they worked to achieve it, they lost it because God doesn't tolerate this type of hostility in His family. Christians trying to punish each other is a no, no.
Getting even with someone is really an act of stupidity. It shows that the person doesn't understand anything about the God they say they believe in. It's an act of stupidity that always hurts the person who does it.
Reasons People opt For Revenge:
1. You said something that made them feel some kind of way
2. You didn't give them what they wanted
3. You took a stand for what you believe
4. You weren't impressed with them
5. You challenged them about something
6. You hurt their pride
7. They were jealous of you and envy you
8. They hate you
9. You're getting the attention they feel they deserve
10. They are in emotional pain of some sort
Check to see if any of these reasons reside in your heart. If so, get busy and get rid of them by dealing with the core of the problem deep within. It doesn't matter how many degrees you have, career you have, money, possessions, or who you are, being vengeful is ugly and a dumb way of dealing with what is really bothering you.
It's always better to take a good look within ourselves when we hear something we don't like or agree with. Ask ourselves, "Why am I feeling threatened by what was said? Why do I want to punish that person? Why am I feeling the way I feel right now? What is this really about?"
You see, there is always a core spot that is screaming when we feel vengeful. It usually is coming from a place of inadequacies, a need for affirmation, insecurities, and a low self-worth. There shouldn't be any words that bring us to the place of revenge in our spirits unless we are already feeling less than. These are areas within us that need fixing.
The problem also lies in the fact that who we propose to be on the outside, that picture of us that we want people to see, and that we believe we are, is not the truth of who we really are. The minute something is said, or not done, or challenges us in any way, the claws come out, and we start screaming from deep within, and we lash out in revenge. God warns us about taking matters into our own hands by way of being vengeful. He is trying to prevent us from hurting ourselves deeply in the end. Even when someone does something to you that was indeed wrong, let God handle them. He is the perfect one to give the right punishment for the deed done. In other cases, when it's simply that a person expressed how they feel about something that doesn't meet with your approval, you are not in the right to now punish them in any way. You don't have the right from God to try to ruin their reputation with others or to speak evil against them or do an evil act against them. God will punish you if you do; be assured of that. God doesn't play with His children and their sinful acts. Even if later, you confess the evil you've done, to God, the consequences of taking some sort of revenge will still fall on you. You will still be held responsible to God for how you responded to the person.
Stay clear of a vengeful spirit. Work out your issues with God. Examine your own heart thoroughly and ask God to help you to accept the truth of what was said. Perhaps God used those words spoken to you to get your attention about something He's been trying to tell you or warn you about. Don't shoot the messenger. Remember, when you are trusting God with your life, your abilities, your achievements, and your successes, He makes you to be a secure individual deep within, you won't have those feelings of revenge, or hateful evil behavior. If you don't have that confidence in God, I'd say that something is wrong with your brand of Christianity.