Just imagine, someone notices that your enemy or adversary has been humbled, due to circumstances, and now comes to you in an attempt to be friendly. They come with comments or a conversation that they think you will be interested in, only to be rebuked by you, or ignored and sent away. It is clear that they were never friends with you prior to this.
This type of character in a person has no allegiance to anyone. It is narcissistic behavior, full of selfishness, self-seeking, always trying to have an ‘in’ with those who are either in the lime light for the moment, or those who are in a position they want for themselves, so they do things or say things to try to attach themselves to you. Let something happen, and see how fast they’ll turn their backs on you.
When troubles arise, these types are always looking to save their own skin by any means necessary.
Narcissists have inflated thoughts about themselves. They think highly of their skills and abilities. They are grand in their own minds. They are also preoccupied with themselves.
Narcissistic people seem to be void of true concern for others. All that matters is what's about them and what they want. They are hard pressed to be empathetic or sympathetic unless there is something in it for them, and their intentions still aren’t pure. They are users and can, if not careful, become abusers. They cannot be trusted. You’re just an end to a means for them.
We know that what lies just beneath the surface is a deeper need they're crying out for. They don’t know how to be a friend to anyone and they have many ‘Acquaintances’, but hardly any true friends. No one can survive in a relationship with a narcissist unless you are their therapist.
Here’s the disclaimer, I am not a psychologist or a psychiatrist, I am from the school of ‘Hard Knocks’, and what I do know a lot about is dysfunctional behavior. Narcissism is a result of disfunction, as well as, in some cases, mental disturbance.
It never ends well for those who exhibit narcissistic behavior. They waste years and energy, never achieving what they so desperately need and want. I knew of a woman once who claimed to be a believer, yet she was a narcissist till the day she died. She was miserable and unhappy, always. Everything was everyone else's fault, not hers. She never took responsibility for her actions, neither would she apologize for the wrong she did. She was bitter and angry all of the time. She resented others. She was always tearing people down, and trying to influence them with her take on things. In the end, she suffered loneliness and pain. No one seem to go around her in her hour of need, even in her death. All you heard off of people's tongues were all the terrible things she said to them and how awful she was.
There was a young man in 2 Samuel chapter one. He is nameless, it just mentions that he was an Amalekite that came from King Saul's camp. Saul and his men lost the battle that day against the enemy and as we know, King Saul fell on his own sword, committing suicide, as oppose to being killed by his enemies. This young man evidently witnessed the end of Saul and took credit for having killed him. When David asked how things went in battle, he lied, thinking he had done David a favor, by saying he killed Saul. What he didn't know was that David respected King Saul, the Lord's anointed, regardless of the problems between them due to Saul's jealousy. David had the young man killed. This young man seem to fall into the category of a 'Narcissist'. This was a selfish act. He thought it would put him in a good light with David and what ever else he thought he might have gained.
It didn’t go well for this young man when he chose to take credit for something he didn’t do. That lie cost him his life. Little did he know that David was a man of integrity and not a vengeful man. Only a vengeful man would have taken sides with him. David had him executed! It is also interesting that a few days before this young man crossed David's path, David had just slaughtered the Amalekites.
Character is everything. Don’t lie to yourself thinking that it’s not! Never gravitate towards someone for selfish reasons! Don’t tell lies to get in with people, it just might cost you everything!
Philipians 2:3 "Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself."
2 Timothy 3:2 "Men shall be lovers of themselves..." (In the last days this will be prevalent like never before)