Proverbs talks about seven types of women.
THE CONTENTIOUS (brawling) WOMAN ~ Prov. 21:9
“It is better to dwell in a corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman in a wide house.”
A contentious woman is a miserable woman. She will ruin any person’s peace of mind and happiness. She has deep disturbing issues that are behind her constant quarreling and strife.
A contentious woman always has an axe to grind. She is hateful, spiteful, vengeful, and repulsive.
She tears her own house down, ruins her own marriage as well as any other potential relationship.
The more she ruins, the more miserable she becomes. It’s a vicious cycle that never ends. Happiness will always allude her and peace of mind is never to be found.
If she has children, she lives vicariously through them. They love her, but she also plays the ‘Poor is me’ card and makes them feel indebted to her. Unless her children are strong with minds of their own, she will control them also.
She lies, she spies, and she cries wolf to any who would be gullible enough to stop and listen.
It perhaps is true that the underlying reason for her behavior is rooted in pain, neglect, abuse of some sort, and ill treatment from the past, but this is never a legitimate reason for such evil behavior.
Life for her is burdensome and she never seems to live up to her God-given potential. Her abilities and skills are stifled and limited due to her behavior.
Eventually everyone who comes in contact with her either despises her, or avoids her. Her reputation speaks for itself. Years can go by and her progress and growth is stunted.
Some men fall into her grasp because of their own deficiencies. Actually, she pursues them and they mistake that for true attraction or love. Once she has them, they come to find out that they are in a hell of a situation that they can’t get out of. They either ‘die out’ or are forever ‘punished’ by her. The grief she causes diminishes the man’s health.
Stay far away from this type of woman! She is everywhere! She's found in the workplace, in the community, at the grocery store, in the church, in the family, and in government institutions!
Although she is everywhere, we can avoid run-ins with her. Your frustration and anger with her can be deferred by understanding that her behavior and responses to life is often not about you! It's deep seated and rooted in negative childhood experiences. Most of the negative stuff we see in others stems from some sort of trauma from their childhood. It helps to understand that because it will adjust our thinking and restrain any negative reactions we might want to respond with.
She's a challenge for all, but with the help of the Lord, we won't feed the monster in her or fall into her trap!
God says this about her:
Prov. 9:13 "She is loud and in your face."
Prov. 21"19 "You're better off living in a desert than living with her."
Prov. 12:4 "She's like a bone eating disease."