Virtuous meaning, ”of strength," that is, moral courage.
She has no problem with her husband’s authority over her. She is reserved for her husband’s love and affection, and how to work along with him in harmony. She is not into manipulations of any sort.
It takes strength and courage to be a married woman who chooses to do what is right. Despite temptations and challenges, one must make that final decision to do what pleases God and in so doing, the marriage is preserved from destruction.
It’s easier to yield to one’s flesh, and to retaliate when things aren’t going well. Sometimes for every negative, non-right decision, there is a negative counter reaction that spirals out of control, thereby exasperating an already bad situation. Both individuals can now easily fall into situations that can destroy the union.
A virtuous woman has her good days and her bad days, she is not exempt from challenges. She always keeps before her what is proper and right. Righteousness precedes her in all matters. She knows how to communicate her feelings within proper bounds of speech. She knows how to pray and wait on God to fix anything that needs to be fixed. She knows how to remain steady in her attitude, and behavior towards her husband regardless of disagreements and conflict. She makes her appeal to God. She has learned how to depend on God for everything, great and small. Her mood paints her home environment with peace and calm. She doesn’t let problems change her disposition. This is the definition of spiritual maturity.
If she has children, they learn what it means to submit to authority over them by what they see their mother do. The Old Testament makes several references to kings, by stating who their mothers were. In the case of an evil king who influenced God’s people for the bad, it gives the name of that king’s mother. This is profound! The mother has the greatest influence over her children. She is the first parent they built a bond with from the womb. She spends the most time with them, they hear her words, they see her moods, behavior, and reactions. Mothers have the power to raise children for evil or for good.
When a male child sees their mother disrespect their father in any way, be he in the home or living apart, that male child learns that ‘women’ in general will have the potential to treat him that way. He then will eventually do one of three things. 1. Learn that the way to deal with women is to be aggressive and controlling, or 2. Learn to be abusive to invoke fear as a preventative measure, or 3. Learn to let her have her way in order to avoid conflict.
The female child responds by learning that men aren’t worth respecting and she can possibly, eventually take on a certain perspective as well. She can either 1. Learn to be manipulative to get her way using any tactic that will subdue the man, or 2. Do as she pleases and not care one way or the other, or 3. Learn to verbally abuse and put the man down every chance she gets. There are a few exceptions to this where male or female children discern what is wrong and lose respect for the parent causing the most injury in the home.
Both children are quietly watching and learning about relationships by the home environment that is set before them. Mothers have the awesome responsibility to guide their eyes and minds to take in proper relationship patterns and habits.
The virtuous woman’s children praised her for they felt her worth, and they recognized what a good person she is, and how they have benefitted from her. They appreciated the happy home environment she helped to cultivate.
Children will always mirror in some way, a reflection of ‘mom’.
If mothers can have this kind of power and influence in the home, and on the psyche of their children, what manner of women ought we mothers to be????